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15 ways to love more effectively

15 ways to love more effectively

By Todd Smith

Today is Valentine's Day, the day set apart to shower the special people in your life with all the love they deserve. If you're scrambling to find that perfect way to demonstrate your affection beyond the usual heart-shaped cards or box of chocolates, I understand. Wanting others to know what they mean to you is great, but expressing it can be a challenge. A few years ago, my wife wrote a lesson in which she detailed the importance of loving people according to what Dr. Gary Chapman referred to as their "primary love language." In summary, we all give and receive love differently; to one person, a hug is enough to brighten a morning; to another, a surprise home-cooked meal is more meaningful than the shiniest jewelry. speltips fotboll betting tips spelbloggar betexplorer.net gratis fotbollstips oddsbonus I decided to add to her wisdom by providing a list of 15 simple and effective ways to love people according to the five love languages. If you are unsure how to identify someone's primary love language, I encourage you to read Joy's post-or have your friends and family take the online quiz. Words of Affirmation A well-timed compliment often has the power to make a words-of-affirmation person's day. For them, the more specific, the better. They don't merely need to know that they are amazing-they need to know why. 1. Scatter loving and encouraging notes across the house, in their car, or in their packed lunch. 2. Compile a list of 15-20 of your favorite things about them, and read it aloud. 3. Observe what they seem insecure about and point your affirmation in that direction. Acts of Service Nothing says "I love you" to people who value service like going out of your way to do something you don't enjoy just because you care about them. Loving these people will vary depending on their circumstances, but here are some timeless ideas. 1. Wash their car. If possible, do so while they're sleeping or otherwise preoccupied so their clean car will be a surprise. 2. Make their favorite meal when they least expect it. 3. Offer to run an errand for a busy or overwhelmed friend. (To be continued)

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